Melawat Butterfly Park KL

Hehehe melawat ala- ala tourist gitu.  Sebenarnya terus terang I nak cakap, sepanjang umur ni dah 30an ni, tahun ni lah baru sedar wujudnya Butterfly Park KL atau Taman Rama-Rama KL ni.  Butterfly park ni, as the name suggested adalah taman di mana rama-rama beterbangan dengan bebas nya.  Wahhhh gitu.  Ni overdue punya posting ni, kami pergi last year masa cuti sekolah.  Saje takde idea, masa dan budget besar nak bawak anak- anak jalan... So kita bawak la anak- anak explore nature dalam hutan batu ni.

Ramai tourists datang sini.  Orang Malaysia ramai gak.  So takde la kami rasa awkward jakun sangat.


Nak share gambar butterflies, kami pakai camera phone aje so tak begitu lah sharp dan di mana rama- rama beterbangan dengan banyak nya, dalam handphone kami tak begitu nampaklah.  Tapi seronok capture moment dengan anak- anak.

Kat mana buterrfly park ni?  Rupanya dekat dengan Taman Botanik, KL Bird's Park, Taman Tasik Perdana.  Kawasan nye well- maintained, bersih.  Nak stroll around jalan- jalan tu takdelah ambik masa lama sangat sebenarnya sebab kecik aje tempatnya.  Kami pusing- pusing dah sampai kat entrance balik.  Dalam park ni, bukan butterflies aje ada, tapi selepas tu ada macam learning centre tempat diorang pamerkan many types of insects, all the different buterfly species dan macam- macam juga lagi.  Dalam kolam- kolam kecil buatan manusia juga terdapat ikan- ikan yang sangat menarik perhatian anak- anak.  Terlompat-lompat excited anak- anak bila tengok. 

Pendapat I, sesuai kalau saja nak singgah pagi sebelum lunch kat kawasan KL tu bagi peluh keluar sikit.  Kalau dah panas tak syok sangat dah kot nak berjalan kan, sebab bila dah nak tengahari tu terasa lah hangat dia walaupon banyak pokok dan daun- daun.  I boleh bagi 7 out of 10 markah. 

Dari awal dok heboh tau, butterfly asyik hinggap kat husband aje.  Skali dia hinggap kat I, punya lah I menjerit jerit ketakutan.  Aduhaiiii.  Bukan butterflies tu boleh buat apa kat ko pon haahha.  Ada gambar tapi takmau share sebab hodooohhh.  Anak- anak enjoy aje.  Janji dapat jalan.  Lepas tu masih keluar ayat, terima kasih Mommy sebab bawak kitorang jalan - jalan.

Habis kat butterfly park, kami pergi lunch, kemudian bawa anak- anak experience naik train.  Diorang penat tapi seronok.  Anak- anak biasalah memang kuat jalan kan.

Serba sedikit tentang butterfly park KL ni,

• Visit website dia www.klbutterflypark.com.  Boleh waze cari KL butterfly park atau butterfly park KL atau taman rama-rama KL.  Lokasi di Taman Tasik Perdana.
• Buka dari 9.00am - 6.00pm.
• Tiket: Kitorang bayar pakej 2 Dewasa + 3 Kanak-kanak yang tak sampai RM50 lah.  Total RM34.  Kira kalau rakyat Malaysia, tak de la mahal sangat tiket ni.  Tak macam kau pergi petting zoo ke, zoo ke, aquaria ke.
• Ada kemudahan tandas di dalam taman.
• Bole call Management diorang kalau nak tanya apa- apa di  603-2693479.

Apa pun, kalau you all nak pergi pakai lah pakaian bersesuaian.  Pastikan pakai kasut yang sesuai sebab lantai mungkin agak licin bila cuaca lembab.  Kami pergi musim hujan.  Tapi sebelum hujan turun, cuaca panas terik sangat.  Anak- anak memang komplen panas, dan ada juga nyamuk ok.  So bersiap sedia lah. 

Anak Sulong Masuk Darjah 1 (Part 1)

Dah hampir sebulan pun Ayesha masuk darjah 1... Sampai sekarang sebenarnya jiwa Mommy dia belum boleh let go,walaupon dok terbaca kata - kata pakar motivasi, let go and let God.  Kirimkan doa pada anak semoga dia baik baik sahaja.

Actually there's a lot of 'first time' experience I would like to share.  Tapi sebab masa tak begitu mengizinkan, I have decided to break the posts into different parts.  Hehehe dalam post kali ni, nak cerita je serba sedikit persiapan nak sekolahkan anak ni.

Banyak rakan- rakan share pengalaman diorang, dan beberapa artikel yang I anggap sangat berguna dalam membantu persiapan sekolah anak ni.  Tapi, post I ni lebih kepada nak share pengalaman I tentang persediaan untuk keperluan barang sekolah la. 

Kita cerita tentang pengalaman hari pertama dan seterusnye kat post lain eh.

#1 Baju Sekolah 

Me being me, I decided untuk cuba two different brands and two different materials baju sekolah.  Kedua dua harga sama sebab dapat harga promosi tau.  Satu brand 'Canggih', lagi satu brand beli kat kedai apek dekat rumah, kain jenis kain licin (jangan tanya specific ye nama kain saya tak tau hahahaa).  Bila dah lepas basuh, nak iron, etc didapati -
- Kain canggih lebih mudah digosok pada mulanya.
- Bila dah start kena kotoran, dan start kena memberus, kain jenis licin ni lagi senang nak dicuci.  Serious.
- Baru tak sampai sebulan pakai, dah nampak ada beza warna pada kedua dua jenis brand.  Pendapat I, kain licin tu lebih nampak bertahan setakat ini - dengan kualiti air digunakan untuk cucian, bahan detergent digunakan dan tahap kotoran yang lekat... Yes, kain licin ni lebih mudah I nak handle dan belum menunjukkan kesan kesan lusuh berbanding yang lagi satu.
- Beli asing untuk sekolah agama dan sekolah kebangsaan sebab Ayesha tak pakai tudung untuk ke sekolah kebangsaan... So memang perlu asing sebab ada lencana, dan tambah kotor lak tu dah pakai dair pagi. 

#2 Kasut

Comot tak kasut sekolah anak I.  Sepasang kasut ni pakai dari pagi okey hemmm. Ni tahap kotoran adalah mild, ye.  Ada lebih teruk.

Untuk kasut, memang cuba 2 jenis.  Satu jenis zap on ala ala velcro tu.  Satu lagi jenis sarung ni. 

Ada lah kawan share tips, beli jenis sarung lebih mudah untuk anak darjah 1.  Tapi tips tu dapat selepas kasut dah dibeli.  Hahaha. 

Nasib memang kasut jenis zap on tu beli sepasang je.  Selebihnya adalah ini <--

Jenis zap on I beli tu, I rasa susah nak maintain.  Susah cuci, banyak kotoran melekat kat velcro tu, termasuk lah pelbagai jenis rambut dan dirt.  Huiyoooo.  Ganas anak I ni. 

Jenis sarung, senang nak manage.  Senang anak nak buka, pakai, nak cuci, nak kapur.  Especially bila yang mengapur itu adalah anak.  Senang.   Belilah kasut sekolah sarung, kalau anda species mak macam I. 

Didapati bahawa mencuci kasut sekolah sebanyak berpasang- pasang dengan kotoran tahap maksima mungkin boleh menyebabkan lengan mak bertambah sado. 

 #3 Beg

Dilema asalnya adalah, 'to trolley or not to trolley'. 

Kenang kan betapa banyak buku kena bawa setiap hari.  Kenang kan betapa kurus badan anakanda sulong nak kena angkat beg itu.

Tapi, selain berat I ada take into consideration benda lain pula untuk beg sekolah anak,

- Sekolah ada tangga tak?  Curam tak?
- Kelas dekat tingkat berapa?
- Agak- agak anak cukup mahir tak untuk manouver beg trolley ni dalam apa jua keadaan.

Akhirnya beli beg takde trolley.  Alhamdulillah, it was the right decision sebab Ayesha perlu lalu tangga yang sangat sangat tinggi masa balik sekolah.  Dengan keadaan tangga, dan ramai nya manusia memang bahaya.  Walaupon pada hari pertama kena bawa buku teks berat berat, ada insiden dia tak mampu nak dukung beg (rupanya sebab tali beg sekolah tak kemas), syukur pada Allah proses seterusnya mudah. 

#4 Barang Keperluan Lain

1) Stok keperluan alat tulis ala- ala kedai buku.  Ini bagi menangani keadaan pensil warna ilang, pensil hilang, sharpener jatuh longkang, pemadam tinggal separuh sebab kawan pinjam lagi separuh (ok serius, pemadam dia separuh je).
2) Stoking.  Stoking kan suka menyorok sebelah... Tak jadi sepasang, jadi single pulak sebab sebelah lagi menyorok.
3) Anak tudung.
4) Camisole bagi elak baju jarang untuk anak perempuan.
5) Tights atau shorts untuk pakai bawah kain.
6) Tudung sarung awning lembut biar dia mudah uruskan sendiri untuk pakai dan buka.  Biar mudah mak nak basuh dan gosok.  
7) Sticker nama (takyah berangan sangat nak letak nama kelas bagai... Mommy dah terkena ni, dengan cop bagai... At first parents diberitahu takde 'streaming' untuk darjah 1.  Sekali ada, dan anak bertukar kelas.  Ha ambik ko.  Gigih mak kopek satu satu sticker dan tampal yang baru. 
8) Pembalut buku , gunting dan selotape.  Sedia kan lah banyak gulung pembalut tu.  Banyak gila buku. 
9) Purse kecik yang muat masuk poket.
10) Duit RM1 sebagai tabung mak untuk duit belanja anak. 
11) Doa doa doa.

Kalau ada tertinggal tu , adalah tu... sindrom mak mak.  Hahaha.

Ok sekian Part 1.  Nanti rajin I update lak cerita lain.

Ayam goreng kunyit untuk dinner

Wanita berkerjaya (konon nye berkerjaya macam I ni, konon-konon hahaha) yang sentiasa bermuhasabah diri dalam mencapai kejayaan dalam dua- dua bidang kerjaya dan rumahtangga, macam ni lah.  Kat office dah penat lelah bekerja, balik baru plan nak tapau anak dah cakap, 'allaaaaaaa Mommy masak lagi sedap. Mommy masak please please please'.  Skrip tu sentiasa aje berulang kat rumah ni.  Kadang kalau dah lewat sangat balik tak diturutkan jua.

I ni nak kata pandai masak memang takla... Dari kecik mak bebel, takut kena gulai dengan suami sendiri sebab tak pandai masak dan malas kedapur.  Once upon a time punya kisah.  Memang pemalas tahap dewa, dan tolong hidang aje.  I bukan malas sangat pun, sebenarnya tapi sebab ada pe'el takleh ditegur hehehehee... Bila cara kita asyik salah mula la menjadi vitamin M itu.

Bila dah hidup sendiri, bujang, tekak pun dah tak larat nak makan meggi dan nak berjimat memang dah mula paksa diri masak sendiri.  Masak, simpan freezer dan bawa bekal pegi keje.  Ada lah juga kawan- kawan yang umpat belakang cakap kita ni boros hutang sana sini sampai makan pun kena bekal masa tu.  Well, there were some truth in that too sebab I pernah melalui situasi ekonomi kurang baik lah buat seketika.  Tapi makan makanan rumah ni ada kepuasan.  Jimat, puas.  Sedap tak sedap kau punya pasal.

Bukan senang tau, badan dah penat, otak dah lelah, balik nak masak lagi.  Lagi nak fikir masak apa? Makan apa?  I boleh la tak makan malam tapi budak-budak ni agaknya sehari tak makan malam hemmm mau longlai.  Kuat makan they all ni.  Penat kan jadi mak ni?  Mak berkerjaya atau sepenuh masa sama je ada penat masing- masing lah.  Everyone have their own challenges.  Hati mesti kuat, badan mesti mantop hehehe.

EH, akak anak 3 ni dan kerja busy tahap gaban ni pun kalau bulan puasa ada sehari dua aje makanan beli kat param (pasar ramadan) ye.  Makan puas, elakkan pembaziran.  Tapi rajin terlebih ni cuma datang bulan puasa aje, sebab, i) Balik keje awal, ii) Kejar nak ambik anak takdan pergi Param pon... Mr B pon balik lambat.

Antara tips yang boleh di share kalau nak cuba memasak lepas balik keje (provided korang tak sampai rumah lepas pukul 8pm la kan) adalah,

-> Turunkan lauk pauk dari freezer ke chiller pagi-pagi sebelum pergi kerja.
-> Boleh siap- siap kopek bawang untuk masak seminggu.  Bawang merah, putih, simpan dalam bekas kedap.  Nak lagi cepat, blend je semua macam I hahahaa.
-> Kalau ada intention nak pakai cili kering, blend cili siap- siap every weekend.  Masa blend tu, campur garam sikit, minyak dan air.  Takyah pakai cili boh kat kedai. Tak sedappp.  
-> Sayur boleh makan salad aje.  Takyah nak bergoreng bagai kalau dah malas sangat.

Kalau I, hari kerja memang kalau masak (which is very rare now sebab balik lambat sangat), memang takde masak beria.  Kiranya takde lah nak jumpa gulai ke, kari ke nasi arab ke sangat.  Ada, bukan takde tapi jarang.  Tekak dah tua ni lain.  Mostly goreng kunyit, pan fry / grill.  Stick to simple dishes ehehe.  Tapi mostly nasi, sebab Ayesha adalah pemakan nasi tegar.  Contoh ayam goreng kunyit bawah ni, senang dan cepat.  Jangan marah ek, masak campak- campak ikut cara sendiri.

Bahan:
1) Ayam - potong dadu.
2) Garam.
3) Kunyit.
4) Minyak untuk mengoreng.
5) Bawang merah dan bawang holland (hiris) - aku pakai banyak sebab husband suka bawang.
6) Kacang panjang, carrot, potong lah ikut cara sendiri, dan masuk ajelah apa sayur korang suka.

Cara:
1) Gaul ayam bersama garam dan kunyit, goreng dengan api sederhana.
2) Once ayam dah masak, masukkan bawang, sayur dalam kuali masa api tengah on lagi.
3) Dah masak sayur dan bawang tu, toskan.  Kat atas tu, kitchen roll abis tu lah jadi berminyak hehehee.  Tos pakai penapis aje macam tak jalan pulak. Hemmm.

Pastu hidang... Licin anak- anak makan.  Mak sempat makan cubit- cubit aje.  Takpe sebab mak dah berikrar siang tadi takmo makan nasi dah malam.  Minus, of course the vegetables.  What have I gotta do to make them eat veges, I still wonder.  Hemmmm.

Coffee & Me (Blog post ketika mengantuk)

My cup of coffee for lunch

Me and my bestie kat atas tu.  Hahahaha.  Dalam keadaan kepala serabut macam ni, teringat pulak kopi sedap haiyooo.  Betapa penting nye peranan secawan coffee tu dalam hidup I ni.

Tau tak, dulu tak reti pon minum coffee sedap- sedap ni.  Dari kecik memang reti Nescafe aje.  Sampai remaja ada la sekali sekala appreciate a good cup of REAL coffee.  Masa student pon memang dok minum coffee ni nak bagi mata ni cerah bagaiii nak study.  Tak kenal pon kopi mahai.  Well, kenal, but tak kemaruk mana.  Maybe sebab tak mampu?  Tapi back then memang dah tau, I liked my coffee less sweet (now I lansung tak ambik sugar dalam coffee) and with milk.  Tak boleh black.  No no no.  Tak suka.  Suka coffee yang rasa strong, bitter, ada body sikit.  Tapi tak mampu hokeyy so bancuh Nescafe aje.

Tapi mula- mula dulu gagap, gugup bila nak order coffee kat tempat lain macam sikit ni.

Bila dah start kerja, badan mula penat hemmmm mula lah jadi gila coffee.  It's coffee, coffee and coffee again.  Tapi yang paling magik sekali,  kalau minum coffee sebelum tido, I masih boleh tidur lena lagi.  Ahaha ok, kecuali bila datang pe'el asyik nak ketandas.  Jenis coffee macamana yang disukai pun dah tau.  Kalau dulu, cappucino?  Latte? Flat white? Long black?  Americano?  Semua sounded very foreign to me back then.  Tapi bila dah cuba- cuba bermacam- macam jenis, lepas latte ke cappucino, sekarang flat white sebab kurang suka foam-foam tu bagai.

Korang tau tak coffee tu antioxidants?  Sebenarnya ramai juga kawan- kawan yang tengah diet ni stop minum coffee  But you know what, it is only stopping you from losing weight if you take coffee with sugar and milk/ cream.  Rich in antioxidants, korang boleh cuba minum black coffee pula.  Omit the milk and sugar ya?  I takleh laaaa... Kena juga ada milk.  Sugar memang tak ambik pun.  Boleh la google benefit coffee ni.  Antaranya, bagus untuk kurangkan kaviti, memperbaiki mood, antioxidants dan banyakk lagi lah.

Boleh ke minum coffee masa pregnant and nursing?  

Kalau breastfeeding kena jaga- jaga though... Actually dulu masa I pregnant and breastfeed punya lah worry nak minum kopi ni.  Risau miscarriage, and bila breastfeed risau sangat caffeine masuk dalam susu badan.  Tapi kalau korang nakk minum jugak, boleh lah cuma one small cup.  Ada jumlah yang dibenarkan yang tak masuk dalam breastmilk.  tak silap tak lebih 500miligram / 16 ounces dalam secawan kopi yang kita minum.  Haruslah terpulang juga pada reaksi badan sendiri, dan kalau nursing/ breastfeeding, pada tindakbalas baby.  Kalau rasa tak sesuai, boleh terus omit kot dari diet?

Masa I pregnant, I tried juga untuk tak berhenti terus minum kopi.  The effect, Allahuakbar macam zombie.  Turns out that even if I try to, I couldn't.  My morning sickness was really bad.  Coffee will only make me vomit even more!!!

Kalau bulan puasa, first few days masa puasa tu bila I berhenti terus minum kopi, memang macam zombie jugak.  Ingat lagi, 2 tahun lepas tertido dan terlanggar kereta orang lain.  Aduhaiii, gara- gara tak minum kopi guysss and I quit cold turkey for Ramadan.  Memang takleh celik mata lansung nak datang kerja.

Hingga kini, kalau sehari tak dapat coffee memang rasa takde mood dah.  I guess I am addicted to this thing!!!

Dengan coffee dah rasa macam soulmate lah... I could spend my time alone, reading a good book and having a cup of coffee uninterrupted.   It is such a good feeling mmmm.  Rasa bertenang, jiwa pon tak kacau sangat.  Macam tu lah Cik Diana ni kalau dengan coffee.  Sometimes when I can't talk to anyone about how I feel, I will treat myself to a good cup of coffee.  Penenang jiwa sangat.

How about you?  You can share your coffee stories here.

Semalu

Semalam pergi taman nearby our house. Lari-lari dengan anak-anak kami nampak pohon semalu ni. Mr B decided to stop and let the girls experience for themselves ☝️. Ada video on my insta.

Semalu ni ada kisah dongeng nyerrr jugak, sapa kecik-kecik dulu pernah baca 🙋🙋🙋. Ingat-ingat lupa jalan cerita nye tapi lebih kurang la semalu ni sebenarnya puteri raja. Terkena sumpahan ke apa tah dah lupa hahahaha. Tapi once jumpa cinta sejati dia, semalu ni akan bertukar jadi seorang puteri cantik. Ehhh macam ni ke jalan cerita nye hahahaha. Nanti I google kalau jumpa any related contents.

Tapi nak cakap la, masa kecik dulu selalu berangan bila sentuh semalu ni, keluar la princess yang dok dibaca-baca tu... So that she can be my friend hahaha.  Lonely sangat ka masa itu?  Paling berangan bila kena marah dengan mak.  Makin menjadi-jadi berangan I nak kawan dengan princess ni.

Ehhh tapi ada baca juga tau kaitan pohon semalu ni dengan perempuan.  Antara sifat pohon ni yang dikaitkan dengan wanita,

#sifat pemalu, bila disentuh lalu tersipu- sipu ia malu.
#berduri tajam untuk pertahankan diri.  Wanita berduri ke???? Ahahaha pandai-pandai kau la naaak oiii nak fahamkan.  Yang penting wanita itu berduri walau nampak lembut luaran nye.  Please take note. 
#akak pohon semalu yang kuat, sama lah macam wanita jugaaa. Kuat kan???
#pohon semalu kuncup sendiri waktu senja, paham- paham sendiri lah,,, sedangkan burung pulang kesarang *cry* hahahahaa.  

Apa pun dapat bagi pengalaman buat anak-anak. Baru diorang tau, ohhhhhh ada pohon yang magic macam ni rupanya... (Magic la sebab bila touch dia kuncup malu-malu hahaha).

Abang bomba anyone?

Asyik tengok duduk hype dekat newsfeed sampai semalam tergerak nak tengok satu drama melayu ni, 'Abang Bomba I love you' ek tajuk dia? Kadang- kadang ada jugak duduk tengok drama melayu ni especially bila teman mak... Most of the time tak dan nak tengok apa kat tv dah pun sebab busy dengan macam- macam benda lah... Especially when you have kids, I choose not to watch these cheesy drama cinta sebab I am so worried that kiddos are influenced by the act.  Tau la drama melayu sekarang, punya teruk sampai ada anak luar nikah sama-sama pon jadi bahan sweet sweet dalam drama.  So much rubbish.

Back to the one episode of Abang Bomba that I watched last night, it was mostly 'eurgh what the hell am I watching' kinda feeling but I waited all the way until the 1 hour slot is finished.  Hero dia memang handsome lah, heroin sumpah tak kenal, pelakon keras kayu dan muka tua sangat tak sesuai bawak watak budak sekolah.  Drama tu meninggalkan I dengan penuh tanda tanya, apa mesej yang cuba nak disampaikan ni sebenarnya.  Ok maybe I should be fair and not judge with just one episode tapi biasa nya dengan drama melayu ni kau tertinggal 10 episode pon masih boleh tangkap jalan cerita dia apa...

Ada unsur- unsur nasihat dalam skrip.  Maybe ada cubaan nak paparkan realiti anak melayu kena halau dari rumah oleh parents dan menumpang kasih pada Atuk, dan seorang lelaki lain bila kasih ayah sendiri tak dapat dimenangi.  Just my wild guess, since that's been the sentiments lately with Malaysian drama and movie makers, latest being the movie 'Pekak' which kononnya memaparkan realiti anak-anak hanyut... Tapi tiada jalan penyelesaian ditonjolkan dalam filem ini, mahupon tindakan menyelesai isu-isu demikian oleh pihak berkenaan ekoran dari filem-filem ini.

Balik pada drama tadi, I remember at the beginning of that episode last night I was actually horrified to find out that the girl chasing after this abang bomba, was a school girl.  Tergedik- gedik tersimpul- simpul tersengih- sengih.  Scary to even think that I have 3 girls in the house, watching this with me while I was satisfying my curiosity: what makes this Abang Bomba the hot topics on social media.  Guilty mom, half-way watching I asked Kakak to change to her normal cartoon slot, but she refused sebab Kakak dah tergedik-gedik tengok orang bercinta... 'Kenapa dia kena push-up Mommy? Lelaki tu tak suka dia dah ke?' Umur 6 tahun, dah faham jalan cerita dah pun.  Pastuh terfikir, ye, 6 tahun, mungkin dah mula suka pada boys... mungkin seronok tengok hero handsome, mungkin dah rasa bestnye tengok orang bercinta.  Ok there's no way on earth I'm going to let my kids watch these!!!

Yang paling tak faham.. budak tu budak sekolah kottttt. Kau dah kenapa?  Nak cakap it's ok to fall in love while your ultimate goal should be focusing on your study and just make sure you have a good future?  Adehhh la.  Bila ada part nasihat, aku tak rasa anak-anak remaja akan hadam nasihat tu.  The focus adalah pada sweet nye dapat bercinta dengan abang bomba handsome sado macam tu.  Dengan kes paedophile yang berleluasa sekarang ni, ini yang kita pilih untuk ketengahkan?  I really feel it's stupid.

Entahlah, nak hentam drama pon I know it is not my place.  Bersuara sebagai seorang ibu sahaja.  I was a teenager once, I know what teenage girls are capable of doing.  It made me worried sick that we are now living in the world full of sickos and we're not even doing our parts to make the world a better place.  Then there's tv shows and internet, yang mana kalau kau tak control memang boleh sangat memudaratkan... I'd like to think that we can do our small parts as parents, as civilians, start small kemudian baru lah boleh lihat dan merubah yang lebih besar...  As for me, I think being control freak parent works for me so far...  Let it be that way, forever if it helps me find out what my kids are up to...

#nakbebel
#rant
#parentingissue
#makmaksangat

Monstrous little creature

Small, but horrible creature.  Monstrous.  Evil.

Image Source: Google

The aedes mosquito.  It gives you DENGUE.


Baru beberapa hari ni Mr.B recovered from dengue.  My kids were showing the same symptoms too but because they drink plenty of water, they recovered really quickly.  So they were never really diagnosed with dengue, it could be just viral. My poor poor poor munchkins.

Unlike Mr.B, masa mula-mula kena tu Hari Merdeka, tiba-tiba complaint of terrible backache.  Ok serious I memang rasa sangat-sangat guilty sebab I selalu ada perception that men are just manja ok... bila sakit sikit, merengek lebih sedangkan kita ni macam nak mati sakit pon selalu diam aje.  After that backache he had a fever immediately.  I sendiri pon start malam tu, tidur menggigil-gigil tapi lansung tak ada fever, just shivers and join was aching like crazy but was still able to get up and look after the kids.  Adohaiiii kesian nye encik suami saya.  Memang hari merdeka tu lansung tak bole bangun all he did was 'hibernate' dalam bilik, under the duvet, fans and air-conditioning off.

Masuk hari ke-3 memang tak boleh tahan so I suruh dia buat blood test.  Turns out memang dengue tapi his platelet was 125 which I guessed was not very low sebab tak kena warded pun... Lagipun abang sadooo ahaaahahaha so sick also doesn't look very sick.  Kesian ok berulang ke hospital everyday for blood test.

Munchkins bertiga pula took turns sakit, very very high fever so suppository was on standby 8 hourly, syrup paracetamol and sponging.  I turned up for work macam zombie lah dekat 2 minggu... Panda eyes, Gucci Prada eyebag segala, skin very dry and oily in some areas because I didn't sleep well enough.  Gosh I can feel age was catching up.  Sambil menyumpah juga makhluk kecik yang bole cause you so much trouble.  Dekat dalam rumah dan kawasan rumah memang dah sedaya upaya jaga supaya tak ada air bertakung etc... But of course there are those that are beyond your control, maka redhaaaaa kan lah.

By the way, once detected your case will be reported to Pejabat Kesihatan Daerah or something like that.  Someone turned up yesterday from Jabatan Kesihatan, saying they will be coming for fogging in the area today and would like to fog inside the house too.  The guy also gave me 4 containers in which 2 he put outside and the other 2 to be placed in the kitchen and bathroom each.  Katanya perangkap nyamuk sebab nak test sehari untuk pastikan takde nyamuk dalam rumah ke apa tah...

All in all Alhamdulillah things didn't get any worse.  I was kinda worried with Zika and whatnot these day.  I told my family to load up on drinks.  Water water water.  Please kids, and Mr.B.  Getting kiddos to drink is definitely much easier than getting Mr B to load up.  My kids and plain water are inseparable.  Sama macam Mommy, tak dapat air kosong rasa macam nak mati hahahaha.


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Nah baca pasal dengue,

1. WHO - Dengue and Severe Dengue
2. Dengue fever (Wikipedia)

Yang lain-lain boleh la rajin-rajin google kalau nak tau lebih lanjut.  Rasanya kalau nak minimal kan risk kita, better keep our area free dari benda- benda yang boleh sebab kan Aedes ni membiak.  Contoh macam air bertakung la...

Once infected, kalau berkemampuan untuk minum, kena minum air banyak-banyak untuk elak dehydration.  Dok juga cari relevance between pucuk betik la, sup ketam dan sebagainya untuk naikkan platelet hubby haritu... tapi tak nampak lansung correlation ke.  The doctors cuma pesan banyakkan air la... So I memang bebel tentang kepentingan air pada husband.  Hehehe ok bebel is my middle name.

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Update

Hey we're doctors now let's take a wefie.

14 September - Pejabat kesihatan datang buat fogging area kami, so diarahkan buka pintu dan tingkap supaya dapat sembur ke dalam.  I dok heran kenapa la jiran semua dok luar, ooo kena keluar kot. Ok takpela kids jom jap lagi kita keluar...

Tiba- tiba bunyi orang fogging dah sampai tepi pagar, you can see thick smoke coming towards us.  Kiddos got really scared because depan kita nampak gumpalan asap putih tapi suasan nampak hitam, dengan bunyi mesin yang kuat.  You can't imagine how my little ones would've felt.  Punya lah scary dengan Mr B takde.  Luckily I cepat berfikir, so I grabbed them before the smoke came towards us, and lock ourselves inside the smallest room.  I hugged them, and since we were already wearing masks I said heyyy kids, look at us we've all become doctors so let's take a selfie hahahaha.  Berjaya la pujuk diorang sebab my kids memang suka ambil gambar ponnnnnn.

So lesson learnt, kalau orang Kesihatan kata nak datang fogging dalam rumah, better get out of the house la.  Eventho pakai mask, mata pedih juga sikit- sikit.  Duduk bilik tu ok, sebab asap very minimal tapi bermaksud tak cover la fogging untuk bilik tu... Tu je la nak share hehehe.

Dah selesai potty training

Clap clap...

Dengan ini saya mengistiharkan, both twins are now diapers-free.  Selamat dah poket mak ni... hehehe.

Zehra 'Tinting' nama dia... sebab rambut curly sangat,

Adrina tantek sebab dia perasan dia cantik *bluwekk*

Still ada terlajak terlajak, of course for Adrina she's had her 'accident' every now and then... especially when she's sick.  But it's ok, I am gona give her time.  Budak- budak comel ni baru je 3 years old ponnn... I will let them grow at their own pace.  Slowly but surely.  Walaupon ada rasa nak mengamuk je asyik kena jemur tilam, cuci cadar...

Alhamdulillahhhh... syukurrrrr.  Now in the midst of cup training pula.  Getting ready for school next year in sha Allah kalau ada rezeki.

Sufma Fun Run 2016 , couldn't be worse for me

Oh this fun run I attended during the Merdeka week was an act of desperation - to run and get fit, get a medal.  Life was too hectic I was missing all the great running events :( .  So since the fun run was part of where I work's event I decided to register myself.  I went on my own, this time without my buddies, but I met some friends from work.  So it wasn't all alone ranger kinda thing hahaha.

Imagine guys, pushing my heavyweight body to do this whenever I can, just because I found peace in doing so... I was surprised myself...

Anyway but this time I was really pushing it. I was sick for a few days already and the night before the event, I was vomiting non-stop.  Didn't know what was wrong until I got my period the next day.  Gosh the tracks were so hilly, it was going upwards all the way, from the beginning. Ahahaha, Ok maybe I exaggerated but the tracks were mostly hilly.

All in all,

My timing was really really really baaaddddddd. It was the longest ever,

My feet hurts,

The flag off was really late it was already sunny when we started, 

It rained during my 7th and 8th kilometres *tears*


But I did it anyway ngeeeeeee

A short trip with the kids

We had a short trip to Johor not a while back, and proud to say it was a successful first-time, short trip with the kids  twins while we follow Daddy to work.  The twins are already 3 years + and both of us never dared to bring them anywhere except balik kampung.  We used to spend short trips nearby when we only had Kakak.  It was too much to think about carrying 2 babies at once when travelling in our small.. small.. small.. car, and too many things to carry :P Don't expect a write up on overseas trip from me, at least not yet hahahaa,

Anyway, Mr B had a job to be done at Johor Premium Outlet, so it was a work-fun trip. Work for Mr B, fun for the kids and ah well, not so fun for Mommy where she gets to watch her kids having fun hahaha.  We spent 1 night there, mostly in hotel because Mr B ended up working most of the time.  Imagine my to-do list before going was like 1001, but we ended up doing only 1..

I was assigned to book us accommodation, which was of course reimbursable by the Company, so basically there was a limit.  I had to find somewhere cheap, comfortable, with swimming pool, huge bed, bath tub, and nearby the JPO.  So I went on booking.com and got us Le Grandeur Palm Resorts.  It is about 10-15 minutes to JPO.  Anything more than what Mr B's company can reimburse we'll have to top-up.

After reading several online review about Le Grandeur I decided that the place was probably gonna be an old hotel with lodsa refurbishment needed but somewhat convenient for myself and the kids given the facilities available.  Dahla pergi pun teman Mr B keje... not gonna be much of leisure or jalan-jalan cari makan trip la.  Just wana be away from all the shit normal stuff...

At the time of writing this post I was already thinking why was it that I did not remember to buy the inflatable mattress (which we bought just before raya).  Seriously tak terfikir masa tu.

I think we got ourselves the 'extra large double bed' or something, I can't remember.
But all of us can bunk in here all at once.  

 We had very little time with Mr B, but plenty of time to enjoy this room, me and the kids.  It was all mandi in the bath tub, another round at the pool and then bath tub again and the pool, it's been that or lazing around in the bed.

The room was very spacious for all of us.

Kids already screaming 'we wanna go mandi mom please pretty please.'

Nice and windy at 6pm. 

Pool was ok, huge but already looking very old.  

 Ok there was so much photos of the kids in the pool and hotel room because that was all we did other than hanging out at the JPO itself to do some Raya shopping, then we all went cari makan at Danga Bay for dinner and Kilang Bateri for late lunch the next day before we head back to KL.

My thought of JPO did not change since the first time I came here last time, any high street brands you find here are not much cheaper than those in KL.  Guys I even thought that my GAP 50% membership discounts gave me better offer than JPOs.  But if you happen to be here with intention to shop, well maybe... Maybe there were some that were really cheap, like handbags maybe.

These girls, all they care about is ice-cream *roll eyes* so having Baskin Robin while waiting for Daddy was fun for them.

The special thing about Johor I guess is also food varieties you can find here.  We obviously didn't get to explore much due to limited time.  But we made it to Danga Bay (no photos as princesses fell asleep on the way to dinner and Mr B decided to tapau back to hotel and we ended up eating in the room when the girls are wide awake).  Kiddos loved the ikan bakar soo much it was like one huge fish wasn't enough for all of us here. 

Then before we head back to KL we had our late lunch at this 'Kilang Bateri'.  Ok I should've taken the photo outside hahahaha because it was quite cool with vintage car and all but I didn't because we had cranky kids with us.  Seriously guys this place WAS a kilang bateri.  It is now a hipster cafe/ food court with varieties to choose from.  I loved this place.   Interior was super cool and of course clean, so many food to choose from and the price was shockingly cheap also.  Once you've filled your stomach you can pay a visit at their hipster vendor shops around this Kilang Bateri.  I found those shops pretty cheap.  I bet parking will be disastrous had we come at peak hours which thankfully we did not.  

I was running out of battery so this was one of the 2 photos I managed to take of 'Kilang Bateri'

My poor attempt to take 'panorama' shot on iphone hahaha

Anyway what I realised from this trip was that it didn't take expensive activities or places to make my kids happy.  It was the togetherness, and spending the time with them that they appreciated so much of this trip.  I bet they won't remember places that we've been to, but they will remember somewhere in that memory , I was there with them... Not just elsewhere too busy making a living that I myself have forgotten to live...

Change

I always welcome change in my life.  Never ever in my life have I resisted change, in fact I welcome change with an open heart especially when I know something good is going to come out of it.  I have gone through change over and over again..

My recent life-changing situation, although very skeptical at first but in the end I feel blessed.  As if a new opportunity coming to me.  No promotion, no upgrade, nothing.  Just a change of office. Change of Boss...

Breastfeeding selfie, NIP and bla bla

It was funny how selfie photo of a young mother breastfeeding her child went viral with very un-islamic comments about her.  It was even funnier that hateful comments were also made by fellow mommy netizen and un-married girls, bashing her selfie act commenting all the nasty stuff. I guess us Malaysian have nothing better to say to her than calling her act haram and embarrassing.  But what's sad about it was how some people started to condemn the ladies for nursing in public or NIP they call it. That's how shallow we are, relating the non-related stuff and beginning the hate war among us.

Anyway, my comments onwards aren't gonna be about Islam and its rules because I am no ustazah to do so.  I will write as a mother, a woman myself.

Yes, when you put Islam into context, there was nothing halal about the photo. I am guessing this includes any selfie act, breastfeeding or not... Men, when they want to fantasize, a selfie of your eyes are able to make them think of all the naughty stuff beyond it. That's just man being man.  The young mother probably did some provocation herself, that, I knew nothing about as I won't bother searching further comments by her.

But I found it pitiful that many of us can't forgive her as an excited young mother, in full support of breastfeeding and advocates NIP, someone who may have forgotten the Islamic guideline and maybe need to be reminded but proud to be breastfeeding nevertheless.  Knowing how challenging breastfeeding your child is, and how unsure I was about NIP at times, the ability to do both without giving the heck what people think is a victory for some.  So some mothers decided to share their joy, and selfie was one of it.  It was the same with mothers who share photo of their breastpump, frozen milk stocks, etc.  It was all self-pride and victory.

I don't condone the breastfeeding selfie act.  I wouldn't do it myself.  But give her a break, the lady went through 9 months of pregnancy, labour pain, and trust me breastfeeding itself is sooo sooo painful, so give her a break.  If you have something to say to her, or any mother, message her privately.  Let's be nice to each other shall we.

Anyway if you wanna ban breastfeeding selfie because it invites 'zina', let's ban any sort of selfie including duck face selfie.  Let's ban Dilwale, and all that crappy Malay dramas that get too intimate sometimes.  All of them, if you realise, invites zina too... Ok don't bash me, am just saying hehehe.

So let's forgive all and hope that nothing likes this happens ever again.

As for NIP, please don't get me started already.  If you have been to baby nursing or changing room at malls in Malaysia you would know.  Most of them are poorly maintained, small and smelly, misused and sometimes have male guests inside despite the sign 'no men allowed' on the door.  I had had my own episode screaming at a couple in Ikea, when my daughter was screaming for milk but I was embarrased to feed her in the nursing room because someone's husband was in there.  My own experience at one hospital, post- birth and attempted to breastfeed my twins in the baby ward while having male visitors stared despite all covered up, maybe perverted male visitors, maybe just curiosity altogether.  I would never know. But us, Malaysian, where breastfeeding was common in the old days, still have our men all excited seing a lady feeding her child using her breast!!! And she didn't have any of her body parts exposed while at it.  Ever wondered why?

My advise to you if you are against NIP and wants us ladies to feed in the loo, why don't you try and do that first.  See if you have any appetite doing so. Then post up a selfie of yourself while at it and then advocate others to do the same.  If that is acceptable by you and majority of Malaysian, then maybe you can push for the ladies to breastfeed our child in the toilet.  We might consider it, or might just consider calling you an a**.  Oopss forgive my language, I wouldn't wanna be one of them who calls each other nasty names.

Lets change the way we think shall we. Make this world a better place for everyone, start small by accepting small stuff. But if you choose not to accept, choose to look away.  It won't harm you.

How I lived 2015

SO we said goodbye to 2015 a week ago.  I am taking the opportunity to wish everyone Happy New Year.

2015 was THE year for me.  It was the year to be remembered, but not at all missed.  I hadn't done much in achieving the year resolution, whatever that was I recorded at the beginning.  Oh wait, I didn't have any, because the year did not start that well.

• It was the year I though I was going to lose my mom.  Alhamdulillah, we still have her today.  She isn't the same person, to her and those around her, maybe, but she is the same mom who gave birth to the 6 of us, our first teacher, this lady who put herself last in everything.  We can never repay all that she had done, so the least we can do for Mak now is look after her.  Subhanallah, the feeling to be able to look after her is so beautiful, though sometimes heartbreaking at the same time.  

• In the same year, I made a huge step to change job.  I had left my comfort zone for good 6 years.  No regrets, no looking back, although I do miss the people back there.  They had been so kind to me.  I took up new challenges, bringing new hope and dream with me.  

Ok, these next two are interesting hahaha.  The 7X kilogram me, did something un-expected last year.  No no I did not lose weight, at least not much.  I did lose 5kg of my post-pregnancy weight but I am happy with my weight now.  What I did were entered myself into;

• My first marathon.  I ran my first marathon Subhanallah.  My first 10KM at Larian MAKSAK in Putrajaya.  I wasn't that great, it was half-run and half-walk kinda thing.  Ah well maybe mostly walk :P but it doesn't matter, I did what was beyond me.  It was indeed an experience to be remembered.  It took me 1 hour 30 minutes or so to finish 10km guys.  Inconsistent training, losing my breath but I was one happy Mommy when I got to the finish line.  Superb, I tell you.  I had never done anything like this, and I will do it again. 
  
  
  
  
• Then, I also joined the Reebok Spartan Race.  This was a total challenge guys.  I took myself to the next level.  Like literally hahahahaha.  It was a hurdle race, with like 20 over challenges including fire, barb wire, mud, and all that heavy and dirty stuff.  Not my thing but it was totally worth it.  The race had changed the way I think of myself, my abilities and everything about me.  Well, it was all about me which was why I decided to join the race.  I wanted to do something nice for myself after all these years, after all had happened.

Photo Credit: Reebok Spartan Website

It wasn't all good, but it was a year to remember.  Welcome 2016.

Green juice hehehe

Saje nak share, resepi baru-baru ni untuk menurunkan tekanan darah.  Just recently asyik sakit kepala, pening, rasa berdegup (palpitation), dan sebelah tangan tak boleh nak gerak (tangan kiri).  Sekali cek, rupanya tekanan darah agak tinggi.  Ooooo macam tu rupanya rasa darah tinggi.  Mana nak tau selama ni darah rendaaahh aje.

Masa gi cek dekat doc tu, doc tau ada history bleeding aneurysm dalam family.  Mak I kan kena bleeding aneurysm, so doc cakap benda alah ni adalah hereditary.  Bila mak ada, sangat besar possibilities yang my sister and I pun ada, dan begitu juga lah my daughters nanti.  Nauzubillah, makin berdegup lah saya ni.  Tapi doc tak prescribe any meds pon.  Doc cakap, sebab umur masih uda, cuba bertenang, bawak bersenam regularly, jaga makan, rehat dan kurangkan stress.  In sha Allah, akan terkawal.  But doc ada cakap juga lah tak semua orang lucky, dan tekanan dia turun kembali.  Ada orang masih perlukan bantuan ubat.

Anyway, maka bemula lah journey green juice itu.  I mula ambil green apple setiap hari, 2 kali sehari.  2 biji apple hijau + one carrot setiap kali bersama belalai gajah (snake grass), peria katak laa dan macam- macam lagi cuba nak kurang kan tekanan.  Sanggup lah tetiba beli juicer yang murah- murah tu ha, kemudian sentiasa make sure ada nye buah- buahan ini di rumah.

Taraaaaa. Green apple + snake grass.  Rasa apple jer even though I put like 25 snake grass leaves.

Actually juicing is not as bad as it sounds, or as bad as I thought it would be.  It's just that the effort, yang kurasakan susah sikit.  Ye la, nak clean fruits, chop chop, juice, then wash and dry.  Malasssss.  Tapi malas pun terpaksa lah ye.

Dah almost 3 weeks ni minum juice apple.  Bila tak dan, makan buah aje.  Tapi boleh la, dapat lah merasakan perubahan.  Ada kurang sakit kepala, sakit kat dada dan sebagainya.  Hopefully nothing bad will hapen lah ya.

Kalau korang jenis suka juicing ni, boleh la experiment macam- macam juice lagi.  Mixture of fruits, emmm not so bad you know.  Sedap dan mengenyangkan.  For someone who only drinks coffee and plain water, I can fill up with juices plus 3 scoops of oat bran and skip dinner altogether.  Nice, right?
Some recipes you can try, untuk kurang kan tekanan darah tinggi dengan menggunakan apple dan carrot sebagai base adalah,
1) 2 green apples + 1 carrot + 1 celery (I tak suka bau celery tu bacin yikes so I cuma cuba sekali je)
2) 2 green apples + 1 carrot + 1 bitter gourd (Boleh la letak 5 biji peria tu kalo korang sanggup. Aku memang sekali ajela).
3) 2 green apples + 1 carrot + 1 start fruit (This one memang win.  I suka suka suka).

Boleh lah google lagi pelbagai resepi.  Kalau takde high blood pressure pun boleh minum untuk kesihatan dalaman.

Mommy, kitorang dah besar

Ok seriously, anak-anak dah besar, feeling dia lain pulak sekarang.  Diorang ni tempat bergurau, tempat bermanja, kadang- kadang tempat mengadu walaupun diorang tak faham.  Tak faham, tapi kelihatan macam sentiasa mendengar... 'Mommy, kenapa muka sedih...' 'Mommy, kenapa sad...'

My eldest dah nak masuk 6 tahun dah pun next year.  Fasa menjerit berguling- guling tu dah lepas la.  Errrrr tapi nangis jerit- jerit tanda tak puas hati tu still in her.  At this age, dia banyak buat role-play sampaikan I sendiri banyak kena berlakon la kat rumah.  Kadang- kadang jadi sheriff callie, kadang-kadang dia jadi Elsa.  Turutkan aje la role play dia tu, ikut je skrip dia tu.  Kakak jenis explorer, semua benda nak cuba.  Semua benda curious.  Mommy memang banyak bersabar, dan juga banyak ajak dia borak-borak, tak mau terlepas pandang.  Iyolaaaa, kalau dah banyak benda curious, kita tak tau apa boleh dia buat belakang kita (ok takde icon crying kat sini).

Tapi Kakak ni, antara benda yang mommy paling sayang dia ialah, sikap penyayang dan rajin dia tu.  Kalau membebel, memang mak-mak sangat hahahaha.  Dia rajin tolong mommy buat banyak benda.  Bole ajak sembang sangat lah kalau nak hihihi.  She is my best friend.

Twins, memang dah progress sangat.  They stopped pacifier a few months back on their own.  No tricks, no help.  Berenti macam tu aje.  Amazed sangat mommy ni, sebab selalu tengok budak- budak dah besar masih guna paci atau soother.  Dok bayangkan, macam ni kah anak- anak ku nanti?  Alhamdulillah this part was super easy.

Now dah boleh bertutur sikit- sikit, boleh dengar arahan minima, pandai bermain bertiga, motor skill pun bertambah baik dah.  Zehra mungkin tak sepantas Adrina, tapi she is showing progress and continues to make me proud.   Sekarang tengah potty train, tapi belum nampak gaya nak successful.  Takpe lah, pelan- pelan kayuh.  Tak semua benda mudah, especially when there's two kids to groom at once.  Tabahlah menanggung kos diapers ye, mommy.

One thing these 3 girls have in common : WE LOVE TO PLAYYYYYYY.

Post melawan sawang-sawang?

Hahahaha yelah sangat. Ni lah post nak melawan sawang- sawang kat blog ni.  Memang dah lama sangat tak menulis.  Dah dekat setahun.  Sejak mak kena stroke caused by bleeding aneurysm, survived the stroke, and now post- stroke recovery, memang life had been hectic.  Aku bertukar kerja so coping with new job, membesarkan anak- anak yang lebih kurang kadang-kadang sihat, selalu tak sihat, weekend pun memang lansung tak ada masa lapang.  Sampai kan kesihatan sendiri terjejas ni.

Apa pun, konklusi aku di atas segala yang berlaku dalam kehidupan ni, I need to take it easy la.  Apa- apa terjadi pada diri ni, dengan anak- anak yang masih kecik, adalah sooo not worth it.  Not worth it.  Marilah hidup dengan tenang dan aman, berusaha sedaya mungkin dan yang selebihnya berserah lah pada Allah SWT.  Senyum senyum senyum.  Macam budak-budak kat bawah ni, senyum hahahaa.

Hai sawang- sawang

Seriously, how long has it been since my last post?  Ni dah bukan tahap bersawang berabuk berdebu bagai dah ni.  Agaknye segala makhluk pon dah masuk dalam ni hahahaa.  Yehh cause I've been that busy.

The kids have grown healthily, Alhamdulillah.  There were times when they got sick, tapi dah takde la warded alternate month macam dulu- dulu.  Tulah dia, rezeki Allah Taala nak bagi.

Belanja gambo budak- budak mandi pool sikit :)  My eldest and my twins in inflatable pool yang sangat hebat.  Pool hebat ni bukak je depan rumah and tadaaaaa. Sila lah mandi hingga semput.  Mak ayah pon muat dalam ni.

The twins will turn 2 in March.  Told my eldest, Kakak that it'll be adik- adik soon.  Dia cakap, "asyik birthday adik je, birthday kakak asyik-2 lambat".  Padahal birthday dia celebrated just last September, and sampai 2 biji kek hokey.  Over dak.

Other than work, caring for the kids, I am also busy looking after my mom.  Almost 2 months back, I still remember, on the 10th January, Mak collapsed in my brother's bathroom from stroke.  What she had was called aneurysm bleeding.  Aneursym is basically the condition where your brain blood vessel swells due to several causes such as high blood pressure, birth defect, and many more.  Her swollen vessels had ruptured and caused her seizure and then stroke.  She had been saved, Alhamdulillah, through several emergency procedures.  Sekarang ni sedang bedridden dan melalui recovery process.  Dah discharge from the hospital, and lepak rumah my sister dekat Kajang sekarang.  Maybe one day I'll write about it in detail.

Where she was cared for in GHKL. 

Masa yang sukar untuk kitorang sekeluarga.  Banyak emosi, air mata, ujian demi ujian.  But these things only made us stronger.  Terima kasih ya Allah, kerana membuatkan kami sentiasa ingat pada Mu, pada kebesaran Mu.  Dan kitorang banyak belajar, caring for bedridden post- stroke patient, sekarang dah andai buat suction kahak ikut tracheostomy, pandai feeding mak ikut res tube, physio care, positioning.  Macam- macam perkara baik berlaku di sebalik ujian ni.

Oh, and I will be switching job in a month :) , inshaAllah for the better.  Harapan nye semua bertambah baik dari segala segi.  I know, not the best time to switch job since recession has been predicted.  Tapi, percaya pada kuasa Allah, dan apa saja yang bakal berlaku adalah ujian dari Nya.

Orang Malaysia

Bila kes Adik Firdaus dijumpai dalam keadaan kurus kering, seluruh Malaysia terkejut dan melaknat the mother of the OKU boy.  Seluruh Malaysia seperti biasa jadi 'keyboard warrior'.  Hebat.  Tepuk Tangan.

Kalau belum tau cerita, adik Firdaus seorang yang menghidapi Cerebral Palsy, 15 years of age was found in a rush by Jabatan Imigresen di Flat Semarak N9 dalam keadaan kurus kering dan tak terurus.  Masa dijumpai tu, his mother was working.  How was he then found by Imigresen?  Apparently ada aduan tentang Pendatang Asing Tanpa Izin (PATI), namun instead of PATI, adik malang ini yang di jumpai.

Read berita selanjutnya here
(Snapshots from Berita Harian Online)

Tidak mengiyakan apa yang si Ibu mungkin dah lakukan, mengabaikan atau tidak menguruskan anak ini dengan baik, I choose to NOT JUDGE.  How much better a mother or a person are you bila mengata orang, mulut berbunyi tapi takde apa pon yang kau lakukan/ dapat lakukan untuk membantu.  Bila dah kantoi, wahhh si ibu jahat.  Si Ibu celaka, tak guna, binatang.  Kau yang sebelum ini pernah ambil tau tak apa yang berlaku pada keluarga diorang?  Bila kita bersuara, untuk tidak mengecam si ibu, di anggap pulak kita setuju dengan apa si ibu lakukan.  Di print screen kan pula FB Ibu yang ada gambar selfie pakai tudung merelip relippppp gitu, mungkin nak mengatakan si Ibu tak layak dapat simpati.  Mungkin.  I can't read people's mind.  Tapi sambil tangan kau jaguh menjadi keyboard warrior, apa lagi?  

Look at it from the bigger picture.  Instead of finger pointing, make things right.  Don't judge.  Everyone have their own stories.  Tapi cuba kita lihat dari apa yang Malaysia ada dari segi welfare untuk orang OKU.  Sistem pendidikan khas, bantuan, berapa lama sesuatu aduan OKU tu ditangani, facilities untuk OKU dan sebagainya.  Macam I cakap tadi, tidak pula mengiyakan apa yang Ibu ni buat... tapi kalau anak OKU itu mendapat perhatian sewajarnya mungkin tak terjadi macam tu.  Ditambah dengan kesempitan hidup si Ibu, dan tiada bantuan (mungkin beliau tak minta... atau dah minta namun lambat), maka keadaan menjadi buruk.  

I have an OKU brother.  He had been paralysed since after a few weeks he was born, akibat Cerebral Palsy.  Our family had experienced the differences of Malaysian system than those overseas when it comes to OKU.  Dulu masa di Wales dan London, wow.  Special treatment.  The welfare department found our family, asked my brother to be registered for school dan diberi bantuan selayaknya, tak kira my Dad berkemampuan atau tidak.  Percaya atau tidak, bantuan adalah untuk Si OKU, bukan untuk si Bapa!!! Lain pulak di Malaysia, bila daftarkan OKU dan minta elaun OKU untuk adik I ni, tak dapat sebab si Bapa mampu!  I repeat, bantuan yang di minta untuk si OKU, bukan untuk Bapa.  Rasanya bertahun- tahun Abah cuba minta, untuk masa depan Acik (my brother) jugak... tapi bila pegawai JKM datang rumah, mata melilau seolah nak kata, wah rumah besar apa jenis bantuan kau nak ni...?  Sampai akhirnya tahun lepas, dah dapat duit elaun OKU tu... hasil apa... hasil PRU!!! Jangan tak percaya, percayalah.... orang nak pancing undi sebab risau pengundi berpaling tadah sebab ada perubahan calon dalam parti.  Itulah hakikat orang Malaysia.   

When we were in the UK, my OKU brother went to school. For free.  My mother was given all the necessary equipment to care for him, a 'lift' to lift him mandi la etc, a ramp to help push his wheel chair from our apartment, a custom made wheel chair, custom made shoes to help shape his feet, physiotherapist would come to our house every week to perform physio, and taught my mom the same.  Learning apparatus to make sure he is exposed to the necessary learning environment.  All for free.  And remember, they found us.  Kita kat sini tak mampu nak bagi free lagi... bayar pun takpalah, tapi our care belom sampai ke tahap itu pon.  And what's being done about it, please, do enlighten me.  Dulu my Dad used to drive for hours dari Kampung Kerambit (Kuala Lipis) to Kuantan to make sure my brother dapat physiotheraphy di satu pusat di Kuantan ni.. This was before UK.  It was hours of driving weekly, he was just a school teacher and had 5 other kids to raise, and his work responsibility to fulfill to put rice on our plate, I believe that in the end, he gave up.  So we stick to berurut secara kampung.  

Tu belum cerita other expenses like diapers (which he is still wearing sampai sekarang), special food and medical (if any).  Begitulah susah nya nak raise OKU.  Ni datang dari keluarga yang mampu, Alhamdulillah.  Berdua, him and my mom.  Imagine, seorang, ada kekangan kewangan dan masa.  Please.  Try.  

Ni tak cerita kekurangan facilities OKU dekat Malaysia ni!  Kadang- kadang naik train pon takde announcement dah sampai destinasi, satu hari tu aku sampai terfikir, macamana OKU penglihatan yang naik sama aku ni managed to know where he was suppose to get off?  Dengan kadang-2 escalator takleh naik, lift tak berfungsi.  Setengah kawasan, pram anak pon tak muat nak lalu inikan pula wheelchair?  Berapa banyak parking OKU yang available yang tak disalah guna?  Pemandu Malaysia yang tak berhati perut bila lampu merah pon jalan juga, what if ada orang cacat penglihatan lalu jugak assuming people have stopped?  Ni lah orang Malaysia!!!

Tu belum cerita pasal minda masyarakat kita bila tengok orang cacat.  Ada yang dengan pandangan menggelikan.  Eurggghhh katanya.  Adik I tu, ada orang gunakan dia untuk takut kan budak- budak supaya jangan nakal bila datang rumah.  Ada orang mungkin geli datang rumah sebab air liur beliau meleleh je... Kalau belum lali, memang berbau!  Minda orang Malaysia, pathetic. Yang salah gunakan orang cacat atau pura- pura cacat untuk menagih sedekah pun ada... 

Tapi bila cerita Adik Firdaus keluar wow... semua pandai.  Semua jadi pakar.  Semua jadi Pak Menteri.  Padahal Pak Menteri diam saje... Sudah- sudahla tu korang... Instead of just walking, why don't you walk the talk.  Sumbang kan baju baru untuk adik tu ke... Bagi cash dekat dia ke untuk bantu dia.  Do it for him if you hate the mother that much.  If not directly for him, do something, one small thing everyday untuk bantu keadaan.  Bantu one OKU anywhere... Jangan abuse facilities OKU... Dan sentiasa cuba baik pulih facilities yang ada.  Come on Malaysian.  Cut the crap.  Do something meaningful.  As small as berzakat, memberi pada yang perlu, membantu pada yang memerlukan... 

#Panjang lebar ni  sebab ada rasa kecewa.  Tapi tak terluah di post ni... I pledge to myself that I be a better Mom, a better Malaysian and Muslim.  

Gembar gembur

Semalam punye cerita... adik I buat lawak anto mesej berita kematian anak anjing/ puppy yang Abah beli untuk jaga kebun.  Sepeninggalan mak and abah pergi umrah, adik I yang dok maktab tu helped to look after the house, my handicapped brother dan kebun abah la...  Lawak sampai kitorang layan buat headline ngarut...

Tengok tu how the original story was twisted untuk spice up the story.  Pernah come across jugak kan lawak yang compile different headlines nak tunjukkan how twisted newspapers are?  Cuba cari nak include kat sini tapi tak jumpa :(.   

Yang cuba I nak sampai kan ialah... Careful with what you guys read guys.  Printed media ke, online media ke, social media ke... Kadang- kadang yang disampaikan sangat jauh dari apa yang berlaku.  Jangan biarkan minda kita ni dicemari benda- benda yang belum pasti sumber nya ni.  Cuba buat ini - next time sebelum sebarkan sesuatu apa yang you all baca tak kesah kat FB ker apa, cuba verify dulu kebenaran nye.  So takdelah dapat dosa kering je sebarkan menda yang salah. 

Peace ;) 

The grown up Ayesha

It kills you to see them grow up. But I guess it would kill you quicker if they didn't. ~Barbara Kingsolver, Animal Dreams